However, sometimes fear develops into a phobia, which interferes with a full life. Some people are terrified of flying, others panic when entering a confined space, still others are afraid of insects, and so on.
There’s also a phobia called fear of sex, where a person panics even at the mere thought of going to bed with someone of the opposite sex. This phenomenon is called erotophobia. Despite its beautiful name, this phobia can turn a man’s or woman’s life into hell, preventing them from building fulfilling relationships and contributing to the development of all sorts of intimate complexes.The main reasons that provoke the development of erotophobia:
- little knowledge about sex and everything connected with it (this is most often found in young boys and girls);
- strict prohibition on discussing sexual issues in the family;
- a distorted perception of sex, formed in childhood under the influence of adults or one’s own ideas;
- insufficient knowledge about methods of contraception and protection against sexually transmitted infections;
- low self-esteem, critical attitude towards one’s appearance and behavior;
- misunderstanding of male and female roles in family and intimate life, incorrect attitudes instilled in childhood;
- rudeness of former partners, their negative attitude, ridicule and aggression.
Male erotophobia
As a rule, fear of sex in men most often leads to erectile dysfunction, as a result of which the ability to have sex disappears altogether.
Male erotophobia can have many causes, but the most common is the fear of hurting a woman during intercourse. This fear typically develops during adolescence, when young men begin to watch pornographic films.
It’s rare to see beautiful and sensual sex in a porn film. Most often, actors depict very explicit scenes involving all types of sexual intercourse, as well as violence, humiliation, and other similar games.
Boys, after watching such films, begin to perceive sex as something aggressive, associated with painful sensations (primarily for the partner). And since most people are peace-loving creatures, some young men begin to panic before the possibility of sex, as they absolutely do not want to hurt their woman.
A man may also be afraid of sex because his ex-partner caused him emotional trauma related to his sexual performance. If his new partner is sensitive and understanding, the problem may be easily resolved. If this doesn’t happen, professional help will be needed.Female erotophobia
Fear of sex in women can manifest itself in different ways. Each case should be examined individually, preferably in the office of a sexologist.
Sometimes, fear of sexual intercourse can lead to involuntary contractions of the vaginal muscles. In this case, thrusting becomes impossible, as the penis simply cannot penetrate the vagina. This can be even worse if the internal muscle contract during active sex. When this happens, both partners experience pain. Vaginismus can also be caused by unpleasant memories of difficult childbirth or prolonged and painful treatment for sexually transmitted infections.
Erotophobia can also lead to a woman’s disability to experience orgasm during sex. If the fear of intimacy stems from childhood, the woman never experiences pleasure in bed. If the fear is due to stress, orgasms simply stop occurring at some point, despite her partner’s best efforts.
Whatever the cause of erotophobia, to overcome it, you need to see a good doctor. An experienced specialist will help you identify the root cause of the problem and find happiness in your personal and intimate life. Don’t expect the problem to resolve itself. This is usually very, very rare.
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