Whatever one may say, many members of both sexes really enjoy rough sex. Gentle friction and lengthy foreplay somehow take the edge off the intensity. It seems like your partner is trying hard, prolonging the pleasure and reinventing the wheel, while instead of enjoying yourself, you start examining the quality of the ceiling repairs. So why do some people need a “kick” to reach peak pleasure, with virtually no foreplay? Why do people enjoy rough sex? The reasons can be very varied.
MALE CONQUERORS
Rough sex is a striking form of dominance. A man doesn’t ask a woman, doesn’t buy her. He takes her like a trophy, like a conqueror. You’ll agree, there’s a certain natural spontaneity to this, reminiscent of ancient campaigns into uncharted lands. Nowadays, a man’s physical strength isn’t as valued as it was, say, in the centuries of hard labor and endless wars of conquest with primitive, mostly stabbing weapons. Nowadays, the ability to think, anticipate, and analyze compels men to develop their intellect more than their biceps. And the body also conveys a tantalizing sense of physical superiority over beautiful women, which can be realized at least in bed. So, men genuinely enjoy rough sex, as a role-playing game of strong, victorious knights who brook no resistance.
There is another interesting point
As a rule, a sufficiently rough and intense impact elicits a corresponding response. What do physicists say about this? Is the force of action equal to the force of reaction? So, with “calf-like tenderness,” a woman can simply “melt” in her partner’s arms. But if she’s taken intensely, she’ll be in a kind of tone (and her vaginal muscles, by the way, too). After all, even a slight pain triggers an instant contraction. There’s another option. A man wants to be “broken,” to be raped. He doesn’t need to pursue anyone. He’s not involved at all. Just a victim of a sexual mistress. Oh, how nice it is when it’s not you pursuing someone (with flowers, gifts, and organized birthday parties for her mother), but someone silently takes you!
WHY DO GIRLS LIKE ROUGH SEX?
For the fairer sex, things are even more confusing, and there may be many more “why” answers. Rough sex can be very popular among the fairer sex. Why?
Firstly, because religious and social norms often dictate that women be more reserved and pretend they don’t want sex at all. If an attractive woman approaches ten available couples and offers them sex without payment or obligations, at least nine will agree. If a handsome man approaches the women in the room, seven will refuse, even if they sincerely want it. Therefore, the more ethical a woman is, the more she dreams of being raped. Of course, this is more of an erotic fantasy than a real desire. And she wants the maniac not to be some sick and dirty lunatic, but a famous actor playing a pirate. But the key here is psychology: violent actions relieve her of the responsibility for pleasure. Therefore, rough sex, in the form of a forced game, is good for removing all psychological barriers. Secondly, the more significant, responsible, and “masculine” a woman’s position in everyday life, the more she wants to shed this social role and feel submissive and weak. Many psychologists have encountered this phenomenon in their consultations. And while allowing yourself to “relax” and “give in” is unacceptable in front of no one, even your lover (after all, he might use this against you tomorrow, dividing your property or demanding compensation for your silence), at least in sex you can feel small and vulnerable.
Thirdly, there’s the opposite. The woman acts as a “predatory cat”: she chains her victim and does whatever she wants with them—roughly, but pleasurably. This is revenge for all the nagging of a tyrant boss; the father’s cries that “the man is always the boss”; and the very pleasant self-affirmation of oneself as the dominant female. After all, in the kingdom of hyenas, for example, there’s a complete matriarchy. Fourthly, there’s the victimization option. “The one who hits, loves”—that’s how grandmothers raised a little girl. And the girl learns that a certain veiled form of violence is the norm. But when it’s “too good,” then somehow it’s not quite right. Therefore, rather rough sex in the minds of such young ladies can be akin to a compliment.
SO WHAT DOES ALL THIS MEAN?
If both partners enjoy this form of play, that’s wonderful. Why hold back if you’re both striving for the same thing? Rough sex is passion without convention, imposed inhibitions, or inhibitions. It’s the ability to enjoy life and breathe deeply; to dream and to receive. So, discuss your preferences with your partner, and if they suddenly sigh languidly and say, “Oh, please,” don’t waste your time…
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