But in vain. The sensations of spanking can plunge the passive partner into true ecstasy, which, in terms of the intensity and quantity of pleasurable emotions, cannot even be compared to an orgasm.
BDSM lovers typically use spanking for domination and humiliation. But flagellation can also become a favorite pastime for couples who are far removed from S&M. Partners assume the roles of master and slave (or vice versa) and surrender to their animal instincts and all-consuming passion.How to get started?
To begin, it’s a good idea to come up with a scenario for the erotic game. Much depends on how well the partners choose their roles. For example, the dominant might portray the submissive as a strict teacher or a disgruntled employer. The woman (if the couple is heterosexual), in turn, should play the role of an obedient student or a humble housekeeper.
Next, you need to determine which partner will give the punishment and which will receive it. For convenience, it’s a good idea to purchase special spanking equipment in advance. This could be a whip, a bullwhip, or a flogger. If you want to intensify the pleasurable sensations and create a more intense experience, you can use a gag, bondage (ropes, belts, or handcuffs), or a blindfold. Beginners should start with light spanks with the palm of the hand, which leave barely visible pink marks on the body that fade within half an hour.
Spanking can occur either before sex, as foreplay, or during intimacy. In the latter case, using a whip or flogger is inconvenient; a hand (or two) will suffice. Some simply take breaks between thrusts, during which the dominant delivers thorough punishment to the submissive.Flagellation for the first time
Partners who haven’t yet tried this form of erotic play are unlikely to realize how far they can go. The dominant should begin with light spanks and, through experimentation, determine what force brings pleasure to the passive partner. It’s important to note that the submissive partner will inevitably experience pain. But it’s precisely pain that allows them to immerse themselves in that ecstasy that many describe as unimaginable bliss.
Avoid starting with uncomfortable positions and humiliating commands. Over time, as the bottom gets used to such games, they may request a more aggressive approach. However, for the first time, it’s best to place the passive partner on their stomach on a soft bed, placing a pillow under their buttocks. If the bottom moans, screams, and begs for mercy during the spanking, the erotic play can become even more exciting. The key is to come up with a safe word that will signal the passive partner’s disability to continue the painful play. In this case, the dominant should immediately stop the flagellation.How to ensure safety?
The dominant partner may get carried away and, in the heat of passion, injure the submissive. To prevent this, both participants must be sober. Before the spanking, partners should discuss the upcoming activity and define acceptable boundaries. If the dominant sees bloody marks on the body and the passive partner asks to continue, they should not listen. The spanking should be stopped and the wounds treated with disinfectant.
Whip strokes may only be applied to the buttocks. Palm slaps to the face, crotch, and feet are also acceptable. The abdomen and back are off-limits for flagellation.
Spanking in sex is not a perversion, as some may think, but a special way of giving and receiving painfully sweet sensations.
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