When it comes to men’s sexual preferences, we expect to hear a list of superhuman erotic feats and positions. These stereotypes have come to society from porn, but in reality, they are quite far from reality. Members of the opposite sex, together with sexologists, often share more precise definitions of the kind of sex they truly enjoy. We’ll discuss these preferences below.
ON YOUR INITIATIVE
Sexologists say all their male clients share one thing: guys don’t always want to initiate sex. Women constantly expect men to make the first move, both with date invitations and physical intimacy. When men are forced to initiate sex repeatedly, they begin to feel less desirable and stress about it. Guys feel that constantly initiating sex puts pressure on their partners.
Young people like to be seduced, they like to feel attractive.
When a woman takes the initiative during sex, she sends a message to her partner that says, “I want you.” This attitude gives a man greater confidence in himself and his abilities. Simply ask a guy how he wants you to demonstrate your desire for sex. Perhaps he’s waiting for subtle hints about intimacy or dreams of you taking the initiative. Whatever the case, it’s important to a man. By taking the initiative, you show your partner that you’re interested in a sexual relationship.
ADD VARIETY
In 2011, Durex conducted a survey on sexual satisfaction, asking what people lack in their relationships. Half of those surveyed said their sex lives lacked excitement and variety.
If your couple has sex in the missionary position several times a week on the bed, your partner may crave something different from time to time. No one is suggesting you step out of your comfort zone or try crazy experiments you’ve seen in porn videos. It’s much more down-to-earth. Think about your desires and analyze your thoughts. If you sometimes fantasize about how great it would be to have sex on the kitchen table, just go for it.
Young people often tell sexologists how much they would like to see their partners more open to various experiments.
“Variety is part of what keeps the spice in a relationship, and men definitely need it,” says Laura Berman, Ph.D.
Variety doesn’t necessarily mean new places, games, or costumes. Any change in speed, pressure, or position will make the intercourse more interesting and enjoyable. Using sex toys is also worth mentioning here. If you use one alone, you can bring it into bed and suggest trying it out together. Another option is to choose a toy that works for both of you together.
SEX AS MAKING LOVE
According to a 2013 Durex survey, 96% of respondents said emotional connection was important and made sex better.
It’s a common myth that men only crave animalistic sex. Yes, sex itself is important to them, but so is a closer physical connection with a partner you truly love. Young men want to make love, and by that, they mean passionate, slow, and sensual acts. Expressions of tenderness and love during intercourse with their partner are important to them. During intercourse, a woman should be attentive and caring to her partner, act on her desires, and also strive to satisfy her partner’s fantasies.
STUDY YOURSELF
Making love can help relieve stress, but it can also have the opposite effect if you don’t know your body and shift all responsibility for your pleasure onto your partner. Men appreciate women who can clearly explain how they want to be touched. Guys like women who know what foreplay, positions, words, and atmosphere bring them to orgasm.
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