This is what we need to figure out.

Yes, many will now say that the sexual norm is classic intercourse between two partners. Positions can vary, but trying anything else is perversion and generally rude. But is this true? If we peer into the minds of most people, we’ll find a lot of interesting things there. Partners simply can’t verbalize their fantasies to each other due to shyness, sexual illiteracy, inhibitions, or fear of being misunderstood. Therefore, it’s crucial to choose a partner according to your sexual preferences, so that you don’t spend your nights dreaming about porn with the appropriate section, but rather bring it to life and truly enjoy life. Religious people find these fantasies very difficult to understand. But for them, sex itself, as a means of satisfaction, is not entirely necessary. But then again, only the person themselves knows what’s going on in their head.

NORMAL OR NOT NORMAL

“Lesbianism, homosexuality, masochism, sadism—these are not perversions,” Ranevskaya explains sternly. “There are actually only two perversions: field hockey and ice ballet.”

Nowadays, psychologists and sexologists agree: whatever is normal for a person is THEIR NORM. Normal is when nothing causes discomfort. The same can be said for a couple. If what happens behind closed doors is normal for them and suits BOTH, then we can say the couple is normal. But if one wants something special, and the other is categorically against it and rejects such experiments, then there’s nothing normal. There are over 100 types of sexual perversions. And if you delve into them, most of them will make your hair stand on end. But among them, there are also completely normal things. Each person is turned on and aroused by different things. But what’s normal for one person, another considers “ugh, pervert.”

Let’s look at some specific examples. We won’t use fancy definitions; we’ll get straight to the point. Normal perversions include anything that doesn’t involve physical force that could lead to loss of physical health, illness, or death.

1. Or those that disturb others, such as exhibitionism—the display of one’s naked body or body parts. This will cause discomfort to others. Furthermore, it can cause long-term emotional trauma, unless you’re a healthy man who can calmly tell the offender, “Hey, put your coat on!”
2. Or, for example, there are people who experience sexual pleasure from amputation of limbs or genitals. This, frankly, is not a fetish for women’s legs… It can be dangerous to health and life.
3. Or there are people who enjoy being choked during sex. It’s great if the partner is reasonable and knows their limits. But what if you’re dealing with a mentally unstable person? You could become a victim and never breathe again in the pursuit of sexual experimentation.
4. There’s a sexual attraction to corpses, animals, or harming them, or to family members. There’s no need to even comment on this. All of this, and many other things on this extensive list, are not normal.
5. There’s another, non-normal, but quite harmless, behavior. It’s a sexual attraction to trees, buttons, dolls, stuffed animals, and foreigners. Although, the latter is unlikely to be appreciated by the foreigners themselves.

As we can see, there are plenty of sexual perversions. Some are harmless, while others leave one truly disgusted.

But there are also things like foreplay on the list. Yes, foreplay is also on the list of sexual perversions. But that’s not true at all. Foreplay is essential for most couples to get in the right frame of mind with their partner and initiate sexual arousal. It’s mostly gentle, sensual, caresses that bring pleasure and make your erogenous zones respond to any touch.

And rough sex has long ceased to be considered a perversion. And after the book “Fifty Shades of Grey,” it even became fashionable. Few people know that BDSM is a separate culture and an entire philosophy. Everyone attributes it to perversion and tries to cure these people. Yes, and here the line is important. When sadism and masochism don’t cause physical harm, and the partners receive only physical and psychological pleasure, then why not?

An interesting fact for lovers of rough sex: When muscles are overly tense, it leads to a lack of oxygen, which reduces tissue nutrition. And without nutrition, there’s no strength or energy to feel anything. To experience pleasure and relaxation, those with a masochistic nature must first experience tension and pain at certain points. Because pain shuts down the mind and the thoughts that have plagued a person throughout the day.

Rough sex isn’t a perversion. It’s simply an unconscious desire to relax. A decrease in libido is sometimes observed in stable couples. So maybe it’s worth releasing pent-up tension this way? After all, orgasm is like that; while you’re tense, it’ll be oh so difficult to experience.

Or an attraction to plump, thin, short, or tall people. What’s so perverted about that? Everyone has their own preferences. But it’s also on the list of sexual perversions.

But! Any attraction, if it reaches the point of fanaticism, is not normal. Stalking the object of one’s desire, intimidating them, pestering them, blackmailing them, fanatical pursuit, violence—all of this is not normal.

WHERE DO LEGS GROW FROM AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

Psychologists claim that any problem stems from childhood. But is this true? Not in every case. Many specialists in this field claim that any deviation from the norm is bad and should be treated. But is this true? Rumor has it that men are more prone to sexual perversion than women. But is this true? Let’s find out!

Let’s start with women and men. In the book “Me, You, Him, Her, and Other Perverts: The Instincts We’re Ashamed of,” Jesse Bering suggests that a man’s sexual preferences are formed before the age of 10. And what he saw and felt before that age forms the basis of his sexual life and preferences in the future. He also writes that this is not the case with women, and their sexual preferences can change throughout life.

But there are scientific studies that suggest there are several stages of sexual development in children. And there are no gender-based distinctions. Therefore, it’s safe to say that Bering is wrong. Anyone can be a pervert, and it doesn’t depend on gender. This belief likely stems from women being more modest in expressing their desires. But that doesn’t mean they don’t have diabolical fantasies.

Should “it” be treated? As we discussed above, if “it” doesn’t cause discomfort to the person themselves, their sexual partner, their pet, or anyone else, there’s no need to treat them! They’re comfortable, they’re happy, they’re smiling, and they want to embrace the world—and that’s great! What exists between two people and what brings them pleasure can’t be immoral.

Sexology is very advanced these days, and thanks to it, many people have discovered their sexuality and embraced their sexual desires. That’s why sexologists say, if it’s normal for you, it’s normal and doesn’t require treatment! However, if your sexual preferences are very aggressive, violent toward your partner or yourself, harmful to your health and life, or if they are emotionally distressing, unpleasant, or burdensome, then it’s time to consult a specialist. A sexologist can help resolve the issue. Until recently, masturbation was considered a perversion, but now, experts studying sex education for children and adolescents say it’s normal. It’s not pathological—as long as it doesn’t go beyond compulsive behavior.

Does everything stem from childhood? Perhaps so. If childhood included violence, aggression from adults or animals, bullying at school, or humiliation, their psyche could be shaken. Whether such a child will develop sexual perversions as an adult is uncertain. However, if their character isn’t strong enough to cope with childhood negativity, there’s a possibility. During puberty, starting at age 6, it’s important to have a trusting relationship with your child to recognize early warning signs and try to correct them. Head injuries, psychological disorders, and drug use can also be factors that lead to perversions.

Should experts be alarmed? Probably not. Because people are becoming more and more liberated, they know what they want and what brings them pleasure in life. There are more and more happy couples, more and more happy people on the streets! They smile and show less aggression. And, as we know, a sexually satisfied person won’t write a bad comment! Happy people are generally not prone to negativity. And sexual satisfaction is a big part of happiness. So what difference does it make whether your sexual preferences are on this list of perversions or not? After all, the main thing is that your “demons” align.